Rob Colquhoun

The fallacy of so called ‘safe’ sex

 

It has been said that societies that do not direct their sexual energies toward the good of marriage and family begin to crumble.[1] In Britain, our government has wholeheartedly put its weight behind a drive to promote sex education offering free condoms, morning after pills while being taught safe sex. Without a shred of conceivable doubt, this project has been an utter disaster. From 1999-2004 sexually transmitted diseases had increased 62 percent, while teenage pregnancies were also up, in some areas leaping 34 percent. Most notably the areas with the greatest increases were in areas where the government had implemented its program.[2] Our government is so engorged in the contraceptive ideology that it has even allowed tax breaks for some contraceptives for the rest of society.

 

Ultimately the message of safe sex is hugely oxymoronic. No form of contraception is 100% effective, and our bodies are stubbornly protective of fertility, because the propagation of the species is too important. The notion that you can ‘protect’ yourself against somebody you want to be closest to leads to the conclusion that pregnancy is a disease to be avoided. When a young unmarried woman becomes sexually active, she is more exposed to becoming depressed, suicidal, have more break ups and later in life become divorced. ‘Safe’ sex is not safe for the soul. It’s deceiving to pretend that condoms are safe when they provide so little protection against so many STDs. Condoms offer little or no protection against the deadly Human papillomavirus.[3] Given oral sex can transmit virtually every STD[4] is it ideological that governments continue to promote this farcical message?

 

First, let’s consider how safe the birth control pill is. The pill affects the blood clotting ability of the body, leading to a significant increase in risk of heart disease and stroke.[5] Women on the pill are up to five times more likely to have a stroke than non pill users and three times more likely to have a heart attack.[6] The birth control pill increases a woman’s chance of having breast cancer, cervical cancer and liver cancer. Twenty one of twenty three studies of women who took the pill before their first child showed increased risk of breast cancer. Birth control pills meddle with a woman’s immune system, making her more likely to contract certain STDs. And of course, contrary to popular belief, the birth control pill can also be an abortifacient. As the pill has the same side effects as pregnancy, this means weight gain, moodiness, skin change and nausea. Even Alfred Kinsey, a lynchpin of the sexual revolution, realised that “At the risk of sounding repitious, I would remind the group that we have found the highest frequency of induced abortion in the group which, in general, most frequently used contraceptives.”[7]

 

The pill can cause more than 150 biological changes in a woman according to the textbook of contraceptive practice. This can include gallbladder disease, headache, bleeding irregularities, ectopic pregnancy, yeast infection, changes to the curvature of the eye, excessive hair growth in unusual places, acne, and partial or complete loss of vision. There are many effects of the pill that are yet to be fully understood in the way they damage and upset the delicate yet beautiful aspects of womanhood. The pill was supposed to bring great liberation to women, but in the words of Christopher West, “Contraception is a sure way to keep women in chains.”[8]

 

There’s one group of people who definitely do not want women to find out about the extent of damage that the pill does to a woman’s body and fertility. Given one pill called Ortho Tri-Cyclen recorded $715 million in sales in 2003, it is patently obvious that the pharmaceutical industry does not want the public to know how dangerous the pill is. After all, it would dent their profits!

 

But surely condoms are ‘safe’ then? Increased condom use by teens is associated with increased out-of-wedlock birth rates”[9] Not one country that has primarily used condoms as a primary means to prevent AIDS has had any success.[10] So called ‘protection’ decreases with every repeated exposure. Other reports show that there have been higher unwed birthrates among sexually experienced teens despite increased condom use.[11] It is quite patronising to teenagers to assume that they cannot control their behaviour, and then to call a small piece of latex ‘safe,’ when in reality its primary aim is the subliminal endorsement of promiscuity. Every teenager is capable of making responsible decisions and controlling their behaviour.

 

Some people argue that teenagers are simply going to do it anyway, and therefore we should endorse a policy of appeasement. It’s impossible to deliver a convincing abstinence message whilst at the same time handing out condoms- for a start people might think you were schizophrenic. If you want those you love to hear the truth in charity, we should want the best with every person. We are all able to make rational choices. With the issue between life and death at stake with unwanted teenage pregnancies and a plethora of nasty sexually transmitted diseases that condoms don’t really protect against anyway- it is more than treacherously negligent to pretend condoms are safe.

 

A woman’s body is the apex of creation and of outstanding natural beauty. When we artificially tamper with God’s great gift of fertility, in reality we create more problems than we solve. That’s why natural family planning is in accord with God’s great design of the body, as is as effective as any contraceptive measure. In the words of Clement of Alexandria, “To have coitus other than to procreate children is to do injury to nature.”[12]

 

There is one method that is 100% effective against STDs, unwanted pregnancies and the physical, emotional and spiritual problems connected with pre-marital sex. The virtue of chastity protects the relationship we are in and helps us to be captivated by the beauty and pleasure of God’s way. True love waits and plans. It is capable of differentiating between physical involvement and true affection. Rather than being prudish, chastity helps us to avoid the heartache of quick emotional entanglements and leaves us well prepared for marriage and spotless before God. Chastity is a crown of triumph for those who achieve it.

 

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Boy meets Girl Biblical Quotations (NAB)

 

John 14:15 If you love me, you will keep my commandments.

 

John 13:35 This is how all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.

 

Deutoronomy 4:5 Therefore, I teach you the statutes and decrees as the LORD, my God, has commanded me, that you may observe them in the land you are entering to occupy.

 

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, on your own intelligence rely not; In all your ways be mindful of him, and he will make straight your paths.

 

Proverbs 12:15 The way of the fool seems right in his own eyes, but he who listens to advice is wise.

 

Proverbs 24:26 He gives a kiss on the lips who makes an honest reply.

 

Proverbs 7:18 Come, let us drink our fill of love, until morning, let us feast on love!

 

Proverbs 15:1 A mild answer calms wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Proverbs 19:2 Without knowledge even zeal is not good; and he who acts hastily, blunders.

Proverbs 7:5 That they may keep you from another's wife, from the adulteress with her smooth words.

Proverbs 31:10 When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls.

 

Proverbs 12:4 A worthy wife is the crown of her husband, but a disgraceful one is like rot in his bones.

 

Proverbs 20:4 In seedtime the sluggard plows not; when he looks for the harvest, it is not there.

 

Proverbs 29:22 An ill-tempered man stirs up disputes, and a hotheaded man is the cause of many sins.

 

Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail when there is no counsel, but they succeed when counselors are many.

 

Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than in a roomy house with a quarrelsome woman.

 

Proverbs 21:19 It is better to dwell in a wilderness than with a quarrelsome and vexatious wife.

 

Proverbs 18:2 The fool takes no delight in understanding, but rather in displaying what he thinks.

 

Proverbs 11:9 With his mouth the impious man would ruin his neighbor, but through their knowledge the just make their escape.

 

Proverbs 5:15-22 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. How may your water sources be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let your fountain be yours alone, not one shared with strangers; And have joy of the wife of your youth, your lovely hind, your graceful doe. Her love will invigorate you always, through her love you will flourish continually, When you lie down she will watch over you, and when you wake, she will share your concerns; wherever you turn, she will guide you. Why then, my son, should you go astray for another's wife and accept the embraces of an adulteress? For each man's ways are plain to the LORD'S sight; all their paths he surveys; By his own iniquities the wicked man will be caught, in the meshes of his own sin he will be held fast.

 

1 Corinthians 10:31 So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 Avoid immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the immoral person sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore, glorify God in your body.

1 Corinthians 13:1 If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal.

 

1 Corinthians 15:28 When everything is subjected to him, then the Son himself will (also) be subjected to the one who subjected everything to him, so that God may be all in all.

 

1 Corinthians 7:12-16 To the rest I say (not the Lord): if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she is willing to go on living with him, he should not divorce her; and if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband. For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through the brother. Otherwise your children would be unclean, whereas in fact they are holy. If the unbeliever separates, however, let him separate. The brother or sister is not bound in such cases; God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband; or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

 

 

1 Corinthians 7:39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whomever she wishes, provided that it be in the Lord.

 

1 Corinthians 7:25-40 Paul’s Marriage Advice

Ephesians 2:22-3 Through him the whole structure is held together and grows into a temple sacred in the Lord; in him you also are being built together into a dwelling place of God in the Spirit.

Ephesians 5:3-4 Immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be mentioned among you, as is fitting among holy ones, no obscenity or silly or suggestive talk, which is out of place, but instead, thanksgiving.

Ephesians 4:26, 29 Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun set on your anger. No foul language should come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for needed edification, that it may impart grace to those who hear.

 

Ephesians 5:21-33 Be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is head of his wife just as Christ is head of the church, he himself the savior of the body. As the church is subordinate to Christ, so wives should be subordinate to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word, that he might present to himself the church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. So (also) husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one hates his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. "For this reason a man shall leave (his) father and (his) mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." This is a great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the church. In any case, each one of you should love his wife as himself, and the wife should respect her husband.

 

Hebrews 13:4, 8 Let marriage be honored among all and the marriage bed be kept undefiled, for God will judge the immoral and adulterers. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

 

Hebrews 10:24-5 We must consider how to rouse one another to love and good works. We should not stay away from our assembly, as is the custom of some, but encourage one another, and this all the more as you see the day drawing near.

 

1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 This is the will of God, your holiness: that you refrain from immorality, that each of you know how to acquire a wife for himself in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion as do the Gentiles who do not know God; not to take advantage of or exploit a brother in this matter, for the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you before and solemnly affirmed. For God did not call us to impurity but to holiness.

 

Galations 3:13 Christ ransomed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written, "Cursed be everyone who hangs on a tree,"

 

2 Samuel 11

 

Psalm 102:27

 

Colossians 2:23 While they have a semblance of wisdom in rigor of devotion and self-abasement (and) severity to the body, they are of no value against gratification of the flesh.

 

Titus 2:11-14 For the grace of God has appeared, saving all and training us to reject godless ways and worldly desires and to live temperately, justly, and devoutly in this age, as we await the blessed hope, the appearance of the glory of the great God and of our savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to deliver us from all lawlessness and to cleanse for himself a people as his own, eager to do what is good.

 

Titus 2:3-8 Similarly, older women should be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers, not addicted to drink, teaching what is good, so that they may train younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, chaste, good homemakers, under the control of their husbands, so that the word of God may not be discredited. Urge the younger men, similarly, to control themselves, showing yourself as a model of good deeds in every respect, with integrity in your teaching, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be criticized, so that the opponent will be put to shame without anything bad to say about us.

 

 

Song of Soloman 8:4

 

Forgiveness 1 John 1:9 If we acknowledge our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and cleanse us from every wrongdoing.

 

2 Corinthians 5:17, 21 So whoever is in Christ is a new creation: the old things have passed away; behold, new things have come. For our sake he made him to be sin who did not know sin, so that we might become the righteousness of God in him.

 

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know well the plans I have in mind for you, says the LORD, plans for your welfare, not for woe! plans to give you a future full of hope.

 

Jeremiah 17:9-10 More tortuous than all else is the human heart, beyond remedy; who can understand it? I, the LORD, alone probe the mind and test the heart, To reward everyone according to his ways, according to the merit of his deeds.

 

 

Exodus 33:19-20 He answered, "I will make all my beauty pass before you, and in your presence I will pronounce my name, 'LORD'; I who show favors to whom I will, I who grant mercy to whom I will. But my face you cannot see, for no man sees me and still lives.

 

 

Isaiah 1:18 Come now, let us set things right, says the LORD: Though your sins be like scarlet, they may become white as snow; Though they be crimson red, they may become white as wool.

 

Psalm  50:21 When you do these things should I be silent? Or do you think that I am like you? I accuse you, I lay the charge before you.

 

Colossians 3:18 Wives, be subordinate to your husbands, as is proper in the Lord.

 

Luke 14:28-9 Which of you wishing to construct a tower does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if there is enough for its completion? Otherwise, after laying the foundation and finding himself unable to finish the work the onlookers should laugh at him

 

Luke 6:31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.

 

Luke 17:3-4 Be on your guard! If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he wrongs you seven times in one day and returns to you seven times saying, 'I am sorry,' you should forgive him."

 

Amos 3:3 Do two walk together unless they have agreed?

 

God’s Affirmation Psalm 119:73 Your hands made me and fashioned me; give me insight to learn your commands.

 

Psalm 139:2 you know when I sit and stand; you understand my thoughts from afar.

 

Human history will culminate in a wedding Revelation 19:7 Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory. For the wedding day of the Lamb has come, his bride has made herself ready.

 

Matthew 19:1-9 When Jesus finished these words, he left Galilee and went to the district of Judea across the Jordan.Great crowds followed him, and he cured them there. Some Pharisees approached him, and tested him, saying, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?" He said in reply, "Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate." They said to him, "Then why did Moses command that the man give the woman a bill of divorce and dismiss (her)?" He said to them, "Because of the hardness of your hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery."

 

Matthew 5:31-2 It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife must give her a bill of divorce.' But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

 

Matthew 6:31 So do not worry and say, 'What are we to eat?' or 'What are we to drink?' or 'What are we to wear?'

 

Romans 7:2-3 Thus a married woman is bound by law to her living husband; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law in respect to her husband. Consequently, while her husband is alive she will be called an adulteress if she consorts with another man. But if her husband dies she is free from that law, and she is not an adulteress if she consorts with another man.

 

Romans 8:28 We know that all things work for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.

 

Romans 12:4-5, 10 For as in one body we have many parts, and all the parts do not have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ and individually parts of one another. love one another with mutual affection; anticipate one another in showing honor.

 

Romans 12:17-21 Do not repay anyone evil for evil; be concerned for what is noble in the sight of all. If possible, on your part, live at peace with all. Beloved, do not look for revenge but leave room for the wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord." Rather, "if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head." Do not be conquered by evil but conquer evil with good.

 

Romans 14:19 Let us then pursue what leads to peace and to building up one another.

 

Jeremiah 1:19 They will fight against you, but not prevail over you, for I am with you to deliver you, says the LORD.

 

1 John 3:16 The way we came to know love was that he laid down his life for us; so we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

 

1 John 1:8 If we say, "We are without sin," we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

 

Phil 2:3-4, 14-15 Do nothing out of selfishness or out of vainglory; rather, humbly regard others as more important than yourselves, each looking out not for his own interests, but (also) everyone for those of others. Do everything without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine like lights in the world,

 

1 Timothy 5:1-2 Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters with complete purity.

 

1 Peter 3:1-4 Likewise, you wives should be subordinate to your husbands so that, even if some disobey the word, they may be won over without a word by their wives' conduct when they observe your reverent and chaste behavior. Your adornment should not be an external one: braiding the hair, wearing gold jewelry, or dressing in fine clothes, but rather the hidden character of the heart, expressed in the imperishable beauty of a gentle and calm disposition, which is precious in the sight of God.

 

 

 

 

 

In the Great Divorce, C.S. Lewis tells a great allegorical story about a ghost of a man afflicted by lust. Lust is represented by a red lizard that sits on the shoulder of the man and whispers convincingly into his ear. The man eventually begins to despair about the lizard, at which point an angel offers to kill it for him. But the man is torn about what to do. The man fears the death of lust will kill him and makes excuse after excuse to the angel to keep the lizard. But finally the man allows the angel to seize and kill the lizard. The angel grasps the reptile, breaks its neck and throws it to the ground. This ghostly man is gloriously transformed into a real and solid being, whilst the lizard, rather than dying is turned into a might stallion. Weeping with tears of joy, the man jumps onto the horse and they fly to the heavens